Most of the time we have a desire to change another person’s life, parents like to have a good child that behaves well and do what is pleasing. Some people have gone so far to change their personality traits looking for means and ways but for the most part it has been a successful failure.
What is a Change?
A change is the shift from one direction or behavior to another, however there are many types and levels of changes, here we will talk more about the changes within a person.
According to psychology they believe that there is existence of Self-Image, when a child is born they born with no self-concept but as they grow through experiences they develop a self image which is a perception on who they should be rather than what they can be. Plastic Surgeon Dr. Maxwell Maltz, the author of Psycho cybernetics, did his work for over a century and realized after the surgery some of his patients were happy about their new looks and some were still having ‘emotional scars’ and could not tell the difference, and that’s when he did a well research on ‘Self Image’ that lead him to discover that if you know the way to communicate with your self image then everything will change and you will develop a success mechanism.
Who is a Person?
The key is to understand what a person is before we know how we can change them, an individual is defined by what they are becoming as the result of what they have been doing for a certain period of time. However there is more into the pot that meets the eye, a person can be acting in a certain way as a result of their genetics that they embody in this level there can be a purely physical disorder, or as a result of their early childhood mental programming this includes emotional as well, or as the result of their spiritual nature, in spirit it refers to the fact that what makes a person, a human is spiritual in nature, a spirit can be defined in many ways but it melts down to the content that is unbreakable or movable by material or mental forces, you can manipulate a person by their physical needs, or by logical explanations but it is their own will to truly accept what you are presenting to them, for example a person has the ability to chose to do something regardless of physical circumstances either environmental or disability, there have been many cases of people in severe pain but have done incomprehensible deeds people like Sean Stephenson and Nick Vujicic have demonstrate the power that is beyond the physical.
Below is a video of Nick Vujicic:
How To Change Personality.
The answer is pretty simple, if a person has a desire to change, then definitely, but if they don’t will to change then all that you do is not going to work, changing a person is a personal business and it should only be based on individual choice and not some convincing art. And most of the things that people don’t understand is that people are where they are or who they have become for a reason, unless they decide to change, the change will never happen. Some few steps to decide how to change;
- First decide clearly what is it that you really want to change, “A proper diagnose is half the cure” you can sit down either by simply writing down or talk with someone close who knows you better and discuss about the good qualities that you would like to attain.
- The Second thing should be how to change those traits, and unwanted behavior, there are many techniques, such as;
- Hypnosis, which you can go to hypnotherapy, or simply find a home study course( depends on your wallet)
- EFT this is emotional freedom technique which involves the energy work that breaks the patterns of bad habits
- Read a book, there are many books on self development, such as You can heal your life by louse Hay, Psycho-Cybernetics
- Get involved in a community of people who have the same like minded, it is easy if there are more than one person who wants to change for better because you can always encourage each other, and this you can use each others experiences and knowledge, say like if someone has read the book you can heal you life, instead of reading the book again you can just use one’s knowledge to make things work faster, or if one is a hypnotherapy they can do it for free or for a fair trade rather than spending too much money on hypnotherapy.
- The last step is paying the price, we pay the price by putting out plans and goals to action, most of people end up planning, and never take any action, taking action is the most important step even though preparation matters but it all comes down into taking action and evaluate your results.
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Everyone has the power to intuit the thoughts of others. Some have developed mind reading to a fine art, while others continue to deny its existence. It is not that we “hear voices,”
although this is possible; nor that we can transmit and receive symbols visually, the most common ESP test. It means that when we find a beloved family member deeply saddened by a loss,
and we seek to comfort that person by touching him or her, at that point we feel a physical sensation of change: we have established a rapport. We can now experience in some small way,
the grief or joy of another soul. This feeling of oneness is characteristic of telepathy, or thought transference, and is heightened by emotional stimulation or patient practice.
The goal of mind reading, then, is the establishment of mental rapport with the subject.
First, we must determine which type of person we are dealing with:
The visual representational system describes people who gravitate towards their visual field. These are types of people who are more in tune with their visual field.
When explaining something to someone who is visual they are most likely to picture it in their minds. Later, when accessing this conversation or story a visual person will be able to visualize the story in their head,
Artists are essentially visual, dealing with color, shape, and visual images; musicians exemplify
The auditory representational system describes people who gravitate towards their auditory field. These people are more in tune with their hearing ability and with sounds. They tend to listen to words and sounds and associate things with these words and sounds. People who are lean toward an auditory representation system often say “sounds good” or “I hear what you are saying.”
The kinaesthetic representational system describes people who depend on their feeling or sense of touch. These people are most in tune with their sense of touch. When talking with someone who depends on their kinesthetic representational system, they might say “hold on” when they are asking you to wait, sculptors might best express the kinaesthetic group, working with texture and form. It is interesting to note that touch
is the customary test of reality for most people. Seeing an unusual object, they approach cautiously,
then reach out to feel if it is there. Likewise an eerie note or whistle emanating from
behind a grate will eventually lead the curious to feel for the vibrations at the source of the sound.
The way to determine what type of person we are dealing with is to observe his or her eyes. “The eyes are the windows to the soul.”
Visual thinkers look up when trying to remember or figure things out; listeners look from side to side (toward the ears); and touchers look down
when thinking . Observe to which quadrant the subject glances when thinking. Those who look above the level of the eyes, or appear unfocused, think and remember
in pictures. Those who look side to side are listening. Those who glance down and left remember by rote or chant; those who glance down and right are touchers. Looking to the
left indicates memory; to the right, reasoning. Holding the forehead (the third eye), rubbing the ears, and stroking the chin are all gestures used to stimulate or encourage mental processes.
Having determined in which category the subject should be placed, we must then adjust ourselves to his or her mode of operation. This is necessary because most people have no idea
how they process information; they only know that they do better in some areas than others. When speaking to one who is visually oriented, use words like “see,” “get the picture,” or it
looks like.” This will make it easier for the subject to understand what you are saying and apply it to his own constructs or thought forms. Likewise for listeners, phrases such as “it sounds
like,” “it has been said,” and “I hear what you are saying,” are appropriate. For touchers, physical contact is best, but terms like “sensation…… feeling,” or “impression” can be applied.
This may be accomplished through most basic form of meditation, by adjusting one’s rate of respiration to that of the subject. When experimenting
with associates, or practicing techniques together, always begin with this exercise. When the breathing of both parties is synchronized, rapport is achieved. This method may also be used
on the unaware subject, since it is so subtle that it goes unnoticed. Nonetheless it is extremely
powerful and effective.
Also, synchronizing your body language with that of the subject can increase rapport. Once sufficient rapport has been achieved, it then becomes possible to direct the activities
of the subject by “leading” him/her. This is a subtle form of hypnosis, not suitable for stage performance, but adequate for sharing a burden or giving advice. It is impossible to make another
person do your bidding by sheer force of will; but if you can get him to follow you, he may accomplish things far beyond any imagined limitations, and you may be permitted to
watch, hear, or feel the experience with the subject.
The following is a good test of rapport: When you think you and the subject resonate like tuning forks placed near each other, intentionally begin changing the breathing rate, then
the posture, then the tone of the conversation, to a topic of your choosing. If the subject is sad, remind him, in terms he can use, of happier experiences. If he has won a great or even
modest victory, rejoice in it with him/ her. Feel the electricity of each moment. Experience the magnetism of charismatic individuals, relive fond memories through the eyes of the elderly,
marvel at the wonder of an infant’s curiosity. This is as close as one may come to telepathy, or mind reading. It may be applied with equal facility to negotiation, investigation, or conversation. If one knows how, one can make
the impossible seem commonplace.
This is the ability to instinctively know something without any formal source of information, almost every person has at least experience this state mostly if there is a sense of danger. some people are more intuitive than others,
however science has clearly shown that intuition is something that can be trained and gained just as any other skills, through specific meditations, Jose Silva dedicated his life to experiment on this field and discovered that when in stress human brain function on a very poor level, but when someone is relaxed creativity arises and more new information flow in. After 50 years of research he developed his famous technique Silva Method,
Conversational hypnosis is the ability to “hypnotize” people through conversation. the word hypnotize is in quotations because generally speaking, conversational hypnosis does not put someone in a trance. Learning the skills of conversational hypnosis enables you to get people’s attention.
Everyone wants the ability to be clearly heard from other people. Conversational hypnosis allows you to develop rapport with another person so that you are easily able to convey your intentions clearly to another individual.
Conversational hypnosis deals a lot with NLP or Neuro Linguistic Programming. One aspect of NLP and conversational hypnosis are representational systems. There are three major representational systems: visual, auditory, and kinesthetic.
Being able to appeal to a any body’s representational system (Visual, Auditory or Kinaesthetic) allows you to develop rapport with them and a level of trust is established. It also helps the subject to realize that you are there for them. They feel you understand exactly what they are going through. A person is more likely to listen to you and make up their mind if they feel confident and at ease around you.
To better yourself by the use of conversation hypnosis you can purchase the product from Steve G Jones A clinical hypnotherapy, on his site: www.hypnosistocontrol.com/
When your mind is easily distracted you can’t really accomplish much in life, you will start one sentence and end up with something which is irrelevant to what you started, it is like the feather in the wind, when it comes to long term projects you will accomplish none simply because you can’t focus on your projects. But you must differentiate between multi-tasking and being distracted.
Our minds are indeed very complex but once you begin to understand how it works, then you will appreciate its true potential. There are couple of things that maybe the causes of a distractive mind;
- Means of operation; In the car race it is the driver who wins the race and not the vehicle, the way you operate your mind can be a cause of distraction, for example there are people who just do and react to whatever comes in their way, if they are browsing the internet they would respond to anything that displays on the computer, they would chat with anyone who wants to chat, click on any ads that is on the page. This is a mind programming which takes its form and result into a distractive mind.
- Environmental; we all know that in a noisy environment it is almost impossible to concentrate, that is just the tip of the iceberg, as our brain receive a lot of information that we are not even aware of, for example now as you are reading you don’t really pay attention to the temperature of your room, there can be a music playing in the background but you don’t even pay much attention to it, nevertheless your brain receives these information without you knowing.
- Psychological; There are people who have been trying to stay focus all their lives and it was a successful failure to stay concentrated, this is due to their early childhood stages where they grew up in a not so organized environment, which takes form as a distracted pattern deep within their subconscious mind.
- Lack of self-confidence: Some people are just easily distracted than others because of their personality, as for “means of operation” if you don’t have self-confidence it is easy to be distracted because your mind follows the pattern of your personality and whatever you try to do and get interrupted you will just stop what you are doing and do what others think or want you to do, which will take form and manifest as a distracted mind. And embed deep in your subconscious mind.
- Health, health counts on everything, some other types of food keeps makes you lazy and inactive, and it doesn’t add much nutrients to your body, as you east healthy your brain can repair itself easily and makes new pathways as you program it.
- Genetic; It is true that we inherit some of our parents behaviour, and being distracted easily can be a caused by our own genes, however this can be changed
A proper diagnose is half the cure if you can clearly determine the cause of your distracted mind then it will be easy to do something about it, and there are couple of things you can do to increase your focus and concentration such as
Meditation, if you can take about 5 minutes every day do a relaxation exercise and try to focus on your breath, when any though comes in your mind just let it go an keep focusing on your breath. This is a good mental discipline and you will begin to see the result. as for someone who is easily distracted, guided meditation can be handy.
Affirmations: You can set write down a positive affirmation that will help you improve your self-confidence and keep you focused.
Physical activities, when you are not active your mind takes the same pattern it just flows with the norm and whenever you try to do something different it try to keep you back in the same lazy pattern, but when you do physical activities like martial arts, sports, doing your chores etc. It will increase your focus and concentration.
Hypnosis: the key is not to give up if you try something couple of times and it doesn’t work always be open to try what works for you, hypnosis can be used to pin point the cause, and can also be used as a tool to reprogram your subconscious mind.
In general you can change your lifestyle, as everything has two poles you can do put yourself in a lifestyle keeps you focused, set plans and goals, make challenges always have something to do work on your ideas, set up projects and your mind will take that form, Everything is hard when you begin but once you develop the habit then it becomes part of you.
Dolores Cannon was born in 1931,in St. Louis, Missouri. She was educated and lived in Missouri until her marriage in 1951 to a career Navy man. She spent the next 2o years traveling all over the world as a typical Navy wife and raised her family.
In 1968 she had her first exposure to reincarnation via regressive hypnosis when her husband, an amateur hypnotist, stumbled across the past life of a woman he was working with who had a weight problem. At that time the “past life” subject was unorthodox and very few people were experimenting in the field. It sparked her interest, but had to be put aside as the demands of family life took precedence.
In 1970 her husband was discharged as a disabled veteran, and they retired to the hills of Arkansas. She then started her writing career and began selling her articles to various magazines and newspapers. When her children began lives of their own, her interest in regressive hypnosis and reincarnation was reawakened. She studied the various hypnosis methods and thus developed her own unique technique which enabled her to gain the most efficient release of information from her subjects. Since 1979 she has regressed and cataloged information gained from hundreds of volunteers. She calls herself a past life regressionist and a psychic researcher who records “lost” knowledge.
She has also worked with the Mutual UFO Network (MUFON) for a number of years. Her published books include
- The Custodians: Beyond Abduction
- Keepers of the Garden
- Conversations With Nostradamus:
- Jesus and the Essenes
- They Walked with Jesus
- The Legend of Starcrash
- Legacy from the Stars
- The Convoluted Universe:
- Between Death & Life
Dolores Cannon has four children and twelve grandchildren who demand that she be solidly balanced between the “real” world of her family and the “unseen” world of her work.
You can visit her website http://www.ozarkmt.com/
These are simple statements to impress upon your subconscious mind in the personal present tenses, like;
I EARN FIFTY THOUSANDS DOLLARS A YEAR
I WEIGH 120 POUNDS
The main point is to stay off the negativity and keep it present, simply because your subconscious mind is incapable of differentiating time and negative phases.
Visualization technique is the most powerful tool to manifest what you want in life simply because your subconscious mind responds to images and emotions faster than words, and the main key is to impress these images into your subconscious mind.Visualization is my favorite because it sums up all and it is easier than making statements, you just visualize something and you don’t have to worry about negatives or present tenses. in order make it more powerful you simply have to add as much details into your visual images as you can. For example;
- If you want to be successfully in your career you just visualize yourself in a nice huge office with a secretary forwarding calls to you, signing checks to your employees, signing contracts, going into seminars and meetings etc.
- You want to loose weight you see yourself in the beach walking comfortable and confidently your feel your light body, you can run easily, breath easily, you can clearly see your small sizes, you see yourself giving away all your pants you were wearing because they are oversize etc.
Some people can visualize better than others, however through practice you can acquire this skill, thinking outside the box visual images can be generated outside your mind, for example when you look a certain picture the image you see is in your mind at the same time, you can use this technique to take visualization one step further, and not to worry about mental visualizations. You can be creative by using vision boards, pictures or even make video clips.
Sometimes we get exposed to images and ideas that we don’t always like. Think about it for a moment, everyone knows that movies are fiction and even if they are based on true story it is still not real but they still get emotionalized by these movies and they laugh, cry get angry etc. That’s just one example. It all depends on how long you have been exposed into those images for them to manifesting, for something to manifest in your life it requires persistence.
These two tools affirmations and visualizations only and only works if you do them repeatedly everyday, you have to affirm everyday until you see the results, they are like seeds if you don’t nurture and pay attention to them they will eventually die. it is always advised to have something like a paper or schedule that will keep you on the track.
How To Use Visualization for Manifestation.
Instead of letting all these energies and natural born ability go into waste, ( crying on a movie, getting angry on the news etc), why not make the most of it?, by using the law of attraction and power of visualization you can manifest what you want in your life. improve your health, relationship, career. spiritual growth etc,
Mind movies are movies designed special for this reason, they are videos professionally made with neural linguistic programming (NLP), get you into the alpha state of mind (this is the level where the mind is highly receptive, light hypnotic state), Made to be used daily to impress ideas / images in your subconscious mind. Mind movies have all different types of movies depends on what area of your life you wish to improve it can wealth, health, relationships etc, easily customizable according to your needs . Find out more about mind movies and how it impacted other people’s lives here