The Road-Map into Achieving your Dreams
I always had this irritating concept at the back of my mind that, there are two types of grown ups;
- The types of people that grows up and realizes that they were little kids,
- The types of people that grows up and realizes that they have grown up,
‘A journey of a Thousands Miles Begins with a single step!” ~ Chinese Proverb
As we go along you will easily categorize yourself into either of the two. So what does it all mean? Usually all kids are born with a ‘Pure Potential’, their minds are ready to be planted with knowledge, skills, art, creativity and so forth, they are full of hope, fearless, experimental, full of energy, just looking at them brings you joy and awe and you somehow feel like you want to be a child again just once more, live without fear, without worrying of what will happen tomorrow, play in the dirt without worrying about germs and making your clothes dirt, just like ‘Magic’.
But why some of these cute little kids turn out to be law breakers, cheaters, even murders?
The thing is we are all born for a specific purpose, and every person has a dream, whether you agree with me or not, if you can’t realize what your dreams are it doesn’t mean you are just an empty bag ready to be filled up with anything that comes on your way, besides every bag is made for a specific reason as well, so not so fast!! 
, Once these dreams and goal are kept away from these little kids they turn out to be the opposite of what they were meant to be, full of grudge and broken dreams. But if these dreams are nurtured and guided then they bear multiple fruits after maturity.
with that being said those people who have realized that they were kids and they ‘need to grow up’ have been kept away from their dreams, and the second group are those who were guided to reach their dreams.
Of coarse you can always do something about your life and your dreams, you can restore yourself into your long lost and fallen ‘kingdom’, you can realize your true nature and return to your heart once again.
The Road-Map
Most of the people can’t or won’t make their dreams come true simply because they never pursued it! Just a simple guide into pursuing your dreams
- Make sure your dreams aren’t what other people expect or want you to be
- Think about this for a moment, every plant that you plant on the ground always and always when grows up to bear the same time of fruits it was meant to, the plant never plan, they don’t have any agendas no do they have any brain to know what they want, Being a human we are superior to all the plant kingdom and animal kingdom, and therefore we have more than just destiny we have something that we can choose and make it our destiny. According to my own life experience every person has a destiny, and every person is meant to be someone, meaning no one else knows more about you than yourself, and no one can come into rescue than yourself making a decision for change, it seems like there is a ’seed’ inside everybody a flame of fire, that is meant to be nurtured and grow up to be something, One of the first steps is to realize who you are. You will eventually realize the things that you are always passionate about things like hobbies, talents, interests are the door ways to your destiny, how come you see little children some are already athletics, some are already singers, it’s like they are just born with their ‘build-in’ skills …stir up that fire in your nurture it until it gives you results…
- Always write down your dreams with clarity,
- The law of attraction is dealing with vibrations, if you have a ‘not -sure’ mental attitude you will get not so sure in return, but if you put down your Dreams and goals in life you will get the same in return, clarity is everything in achieving exactly what you want. Write down with as much details as you can, i can give you a simple example; If you are searching for a specific file in your computer say like ‘the truth about meditation’ and in your hard disc you have other 100 meditation files and on top of that you still have another 50 ‘walking meditation’ something like ‘Spiritual walking meditation’ or ‘morning walk meditation’ etc and you type the word meditation it will bring you a lot of files which will lead into confusion had you type the specific words you will get exactly what you are looking for.
- Think of the first step that you can take into achieving your dreams,
- This might be the big problem in most of the people in achieving what they want in life because they are more focused on the future or past than focusing on what they can do to make it happen, when you put a request in your subconscious mind it always brings back the answer and you are either not listening or you ignored it, so when you focus on what you can do to start making your dreams come true it will always bring you answers, it’s all up to you to put it into action. (I might discuss this more into Goal Setting)
- You have to be willing to pay the price! (amount of time and effort into your dreams), You cannot say i want to be the best piano player in the whole world while every evening you are stuck up on a coach watching an irrelevant topic on TV, you have to think about it, talk about it and get motivated about it, just saying i want to be the best piano player it won’t do much, Always Remember; the clear your goals and dreams are the closer you are into making them into reality, when you talk about it, write it down, acting motivated etc you are molding your dreams into reality
- Get into the system that works, in life you do need proper skills and training to become successfully, earlier i mentioned about the seed being nurtured, you need to be nurtured and guided in the right direction, Instead of going through trial and errors, why not avoid all the mistakes that everyone goes through and learn if from those who have already make those mistakes?, find the right program from the people who are successfully and learn from them.
There are many self help programs i would recommend Some are:
From the teachers who featured the movie the secret, The Secret Science of getting rich
Brian Tracy; he helped millions of people to achieve their goals in business, relationships..etc
Silva ultra mind systems, this is another programs for self improvement, mostly for personal mastery, and discipline.
Quantum jumping, is is like law of attraction but with more guided meditation to success in anything
Emotional Trauma Healing
In the animated movie Kung Fu Panda 2 the character Pow had to find inner peace to move on. little did he know that his past had to be dealt with before he moves forward. Most of the us live our lives not knowing that our past contributes a lot in who we are, some people are very stubborn, some have complex issues, some have over-weight problems, some too pick and the list go on an on; this is not because of who they are but rather what they have become/ conditioned to become, know this that you can always change your personality
Stress and Anxiety
When we are born we learn to react to the world from our parents, little children are not just kids that can be told what to do and their minds are open and ready to be filled up with anything, But rather they are ‘Complete Persons on a mission’ embedded with interests and specific curiosity to reach a certain destination, now you must not confuse what is of spiritual nature and that of biological nature, one may argue that..”ooh I am born with ADHD or may kid is born with some disabilities and that doesn’t make them who they are..and we have to correct that..or when you leave them without teaching them anything they will keep on doing stupid things like drugs..to answer this just think about it for a moment, how come in most of the indigenous people around the world don’t have these ‘Self-destructive tendencies?’ think about it for a moment you go to Africa, Asia, Australia… they don’t do drugs or any destructive patterns, and on top of that it is very rare to find these indigenous people live with depression, anxiety, stress, over weight etc. Feel free to take your own time and contemplate on it, but you will find out that all of these are caused by attachments to the things that are temporal in nature and when they go away, they take a part of you with them and this causes emotional pain, the key is to learn to let go, think about it for a minute, how come most of the people people are depressed or more concerned about things that don’t even exist at that moment? they may be concerned about their debt, exams, what is going to happen or what have happened and miss the real moment ?, once you learn to let go then everything will settle in it’s place.
When a child is born they are usually positive in nature, they look everything in a positive side but as the clock ticks they start to learn through us that some things are not worth trying and some of the habits that were meant to grow out of them as their character growth is discouraged and what is left of them is just a moving machine that has no direction in life but to be told who they are and what to do.
Causes of Emotional Traumas
Emotions are just another layer of who you are, it is as unique as your appearance, your ways of thinking are as unique as your personality, one must realize that every individual is unique, and on top of that emotions also grows just as your biological body. Being unique doesn’t promote egoism or selfishness, but that’s how it is that the cells in the human brain are unique for a specific purpose, the types of animals that inhabits closer to the poles of the earth don’t look the same as the ones that live in the equator for a specific reason, the leaves of the trees are greener in summer for a specific purpose, realize this and embrace the inner child in you, that you are ‘what you are’ for the specific purpose, seek to know yourself and live according to who you are, pay attention to that so that it grows and mature.
Emotional traumas are caused by imbalance between the conceptual reality and instinctual reality, the neural circuits generates conflict between what you want to do and what have been accumulated in your system, this causes head ache, anxiety, stress , impatience and can eventually cause nervous break down. if at your early child hood your parents didn’t believed in you (the self-concept) then whatever you try to do, that ‘seed that your parents planted’ will bring conflict in that, and your subconscious mind will do whatever it can do to make sure that which was planted as one of the rules within your mode of operation will come to pass.
Healing a Broken Heart
People are broken hearted not just because they are “broken hearted”, it is because there is a conflict between what was promised and what is currently happening, “why would she or he cheated?” or why would my spouse did that to me, these phrases are not questions, but explanations of the conflict that is happening, in their system they completely believed that their spouses loved them and they will never do anything to hurt them, and when the situation prove their beliefs wrong that system becomes broken. When you understand what you are going through then it is easy to deal with a broken heart
Steps for emotional healing
As mentioned earlier emotions are as unique as your physical appearance, and every person is different some are more sensitive than others. In order to completely heal your emotions and live a happy life it is advised to know yourself first, know how to deal and react to certain situations, it is hard to conquer unknown enemy, if you go to the war and know nothing about your enemy and their battle field then your chances of winning are very little.
- Know yourself, learn about yourself as much as you can, and also learn the types of choices and beliefs that you had which have brought you in that situation, and know what to avoid doing so that you cannot be in the same situation again
- Accept that you need a healing, be honest to yourself that you really need a help to pull yourself out of that situation, that way it is easy to ask for help of seek a therapy, or take steps to heal yourself
- Pin point the exact wounds and scars that are causing the pain, “Proper diagnose is half the cure” when you can see your wounds clearly it is very easy to heal, at this point it is nice to find someone to talk to, and evaluate what is the real cause of the problem
- Take action if you have decide to either seek a professional counseling, or holistic healing like; chakra healing, Tapping solution. Then make that first move by either making appointments, purchase a book, join a local group, just to keep the movement go.
Benefits of emotional healing
Some people think that they can be strong and move on, but that isn’t the case the reality is that we are entangled and every thing that we do effects everything else, that emotional scars if left like that it grows in the bad direction, depressions causes physical pain, you may be having bad relationships, you may have bad temper , sometimes you may need too much attention, or have some complex issues that prevents you to perform at your maximum level.
Human Soul
The presence of the divine Higher-self in the human mind makes it forever impossible for either science or philosophy to attain a satisfactory comprehension of the evolving soul of the human personality. The soul is the child of the universe and may be really known only through cosmic insight and spiritual discovery.
(Plato, one of the greatest philosopher)
The concept of a soul and of an indwelling spirit is not a new Concept, it has frequently appeared in the various systems of planetary beliefs. Many of the Oriental as well as some of the Occidental faiths have perceived that man is divine in heritage as well as human in inheritance. The feeling of the inner presence in addition to the external omnipresence of Deity has long formed a part of many religions. Men have long believed that there is something growing within the human nature, something vital that is destined to endure beyond the short span of temporal life.
Before man realized that his evolving soul was fathered by a divine spirit, it was thought to reside in different physical organs–the eye, liver, kidney heart, and later, the brain. The savage associated the soul with blood, breath, shadows and with reflections of the self in water.
(Chinese chart of the human body)
In the conception of the atman the Hindu teachers really approximated an appreciation of the nature and presence of the Higher-self, but they failed to distinguish the co presence of the evolving and potentially immortal soul. The Chinese, however, recognized two aspects of a human being, the yang and the yin, the soul and the spirit. The Egyptians and many African tribes also believed in two factors, the ka and the ba;the soul was not usually believed to be pre-existent, only the spirit.
(The Hindu Atman concept )
The inhabitants of the Nile valley believed that each favored individual had bestowed upon him at birth, or soon thereafter, a protecting spirit which they called the ka. They taught that this guardian spirit remained with the mortal subject throughout life and passed before him into the future estate. On the walls of a temple at Luxor, where is depicted the birth of Amenhotep III, the little prince is pictured on the arm of the Nile god, and near him is another child, in appearance identical with the prince, which is a symbol of that entity which the Egyptians called the ka. This sculpture was completed in the fifteenth century before Christ.
(Amenhotep III)
The ka was thought to be a superior spirit genius which desired to guide the associated mortal soul into the better paths of temporal living but more especially to influence the fortunes of the human subject in the hereafter. When an Egyptian of this period died, it was expected that his ka would be waiting for him on the other side of the Great River. At first, only kings were supposed to have kas, but presently all righteous men were believed to possess them.
One Egyptian ruler, speaking of the ka within his heart, said: “I did not disregard its speech; I feared to transgress its guidance. I prospered thereby greatly; I was thus successful by reason of that which it caused me to do; I was distinguished by its guidance.” Many believed that the ka was “an oracle from God in everybody.” Many believed that they were to “spend eternity in gladness of heart in the favor of the God that is in you.”
Every race has a word equivalent to the concept of soul. Many primitive peoples believed the soul looked out upon the world through human eyes; therefore did they so cravenly fear the malevolence of the evil eye. They have long believed that “the spirit of man is the lamp of the Lord.” The Rig-Veda says: “My mind speaks to my heart.
How To Change Your Life
There are two types of people in this world;
- The types of people that when they grow up they realize that they were little kids,
- The types of people that when they grows they realize that they have grown up,
‘A journey of a Thousands Miles Begins with a single step!” ~ Chinese Proverb
As we go along you will easily categorize yourself into either of the two. So what does it all mean? Usually all kids are born with a ‘Pure Potential’, their minds are ready to be filled with knowledge, skills, art, creativity , they are full of hope, fearless, experimental, full of energy, just looking at them brings you joy and awe and you somehow feel like you want to be a child again just once more, live without fear, without worrying of what will happen tomorrow, play in the dirt without worrying about germs and making your clothes dirt, just like ‘Magic’.
But as they grow somewhere along the road they meet some obstacles where a life changing experience happens either to support them or suppress them.
The thing is we are all born for a specific purpose, and every person has a dream, whether you agree with me or not, if you can’t realize what your life purpose is it doesn’t mean you are just an empty bag ready to be filled up with anything that comes on your way, besides every bag is made for a specific reason as well, so not so fast!! 
, Once these dreams and goal are kept away from these little kids they turn out to be the opposite of what they were meant to be, full of anger, resentments and broken dreams. But if these dreams are nurtured and guided then they bear good fruits after maturity.
I am sure by now you are pretty sure which side you are.
Of coarse you can always do something about your life and your dreams, you can restore yourself into your long lost and fallen ‘kingdom’, you can realize your true nature.
Making life goals
Most of the people can’t or won’t make their dreams come true simply because they never pursued it in the first place, to realize your life purpose;
Make sure your dreams aren’t what other people expect or want you to be;
- Think about this for a moment, every plant that you plant on the ground always and always when grows up to bear the same time of fruits it was meant to, the plant never plan, they don’t have any agendas no do they have any brain to know what they want, Being a human we are superior to all the plant kingdom and animal kingdom, and therefore we have more than just destiny we have something that we can choose and make it our destiny. According to my own life experience every person has a destiny, and every person is meant to be someone, meaning no one else knows more about you than yourself, and no one can come into rescue than yourself making a decision for change, it seems like there is a ’seed’ inside everybody a flame of fire, that is meant to be nurtured and grow up to be something, One of the first steps is to realize who you are. You will eventually realize the things that you are always passionate about things like hobbies, talents, interests are the door ways to your destiny, how come you see little children some are already athletics, some are already singers, it’s like they are just born with their ‘build-in’ skills stir up that fire in you nurture it until it gives you results
Always write down your dreams with clarity;
- The law of attraction from thesecret is dealing with vibrations, if you have a ‘not -sure’ mental attitude you will get not so sure in return, but if you put down your Dreams and goals in life you will get the same in return, clarity is everything in achieving exactly what you want. Write down with as much details as you can, i can give you a simple example; If you are searching for a specific file in your computer say like ‘the truth about meditation’ and in your hard disc you have other 100 meditation files and on top of that you still have another 50 ‘walking meditation’ something like ‘Spiritual walking meditation’ or ‘morning walk meditation’ etc and you type the word meditation it will bring you a lot of files which will lead into confusion had you type the specific words you will get exactly what you are looking for.
Think of the first step that you can take into achieving your dreams;
- This might be the big problem for most of the people to achieving what they want in life because they are more focused on the future or past than focusing on what they can do to make it happen, when you put a request in your subconscious mind it always brings back the answers you may disagree because you are either not listening or you ignored it, so when you focus on what you can do to start making your dreams come true it will always bring you answers, it’s all up to you to put it into action.
You have to be willing to pay the price! (amount of time and effort into your dreams);
- You cannot say i want to be the best piano player in the whole world while every evening you are stuck up on a coach watching an irrelevant topic on TV, you have to think about it, talk about it and get self motivated about it, just saying i want to be the best piano player it won’t do much, Always Remember; the clearer your goals and dreams are the closer you are into making them into reality, when you talk about it, write it down, acting motivated etc you are molding your dreams into reality
Get into the system that works;
- In life you do need proper skills and training to become successfully or at least some kind of a teacher who you can look up to and ask questions whenever you need to, earlier i mentioned about the seed being nurtured, you need to be nurtured and guided in the right direction, instead of going through trial and errors, why not avoid all the mistakes that everyone goes through and learn if from those who have already make those mistakes?, find the right program from the people who are successfully and learn from them.
There are many self help programs i would recommend Some are:
From the teachers who featured the movie the secret, The Secret Science of getting rich
Brian Tracy; he helped millions of people to achieve their goals in business, relationships..etc
Silva ultra mind systems, this is another programs for self improvement, mostly for personal mastery, and discipline.
Quantum jumping, is is like law of attraction but with more guided meditation to success in anything
